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What My Birth Trauma Cost Me

Updated: Aug 8, 2022

So today I had a flashback to the moment I was in labor with my firstborn. Like I could feel the contractions pressing against my ๐Ÿˆ. Too graphic? Well, that is how life begins. With a splitting ๐Ÿˆ ๐Ÿ˜….

So what triggered the flashback? Simply put, stress ๐Ÿ˜ฏ .

Last month, I launched my second book The Missing Chapter: Overcoming Generational Trauma in Order to Build Generational Wealth, and had three TV hosts reach out to me to schedule an interview. Earlier this month, my 5-day Wealth System Challenge went live, and 27 participants joined the first week. All the challenge participants left a positive review. Most of them thanked me and stated the challenge helped them create an actionable financial plan. Next month, my wealth-building coaching course the Build Your Wealth Accelerator is due to launch, but I thought about postponing my course release date which triggered the phantom contractions.

Have you ever received good news and instantly began thinking of ways to self-sabotage?

One of the key reasons people self-sabotage is a lack of self-esteem. It's not uncommon to self-sabotage to avoid the stress that comes from others' expectations. The most common self-sabotaging behavior is procrastination.

My flashback recap...

On a cold November morning, I was awakened from my sleep by extreme abdominal pains. Sharp cramping pains were shooting across my 34-week pregnant belly. My husband had already left for work for the day so I was home alone. I ran to the restroom outside of my kitchen and felt an urge to push. Immediately after pushing, blood poured out of me. I knew blood was not a good sign and that I needed to call for help right away.

Recap continued...

I left the bathroom and headed through my kitchen making my way towards my cellphone. As I crossed the kitchen floor, I felt a large matter piercing from between my legs, I reached down, and I felt the curliest hair on the top of my baby's head. My babyโ€™s head was crowning!

I could not believe my baby was arriving and I was going to have to deliver my baby on my own. My phone was too far away from me to call for help and my baby was coming! I needed to get my baby out of my body as quickly and safely as possible. So, I squatted over my kitchen floor and pushed one big, long painful push until my baby was out of my body. I successfully delivered a healthy baby girl ๐Ÿ˜‡!

End of recap.

MY BIRTHING STORY MADE THE NEWS! View the news clip here:

So what did this birth trauma cost me?

Well, my vivid reminder of this stressful yet successful delivery eliminated any of my future excuses.

I delivered my baby! This aptitude of bravery voided any excuses I could potentially come up with to not reach the goals I set for myself. I couldn't say I didn't know enough, I didn't have enough time or I needed help. I delivered my baby and I am not an OBGYN, Midwife, or Doula. #birthwithoutfear

My daughter was not concerned with the fact that I was home alone or that I lacked the medical knowledge to ensure her safe arrival. My daughter only knew I was her mother, and she trusted me to bring her into this world.

So I had to establish that same trust in myself. I had to believe in my abilities to create or to find the resources needed to create whatever life I envisioned for myself. I had to have faith in myself. My daughter had blind faith in me, and because of that, I named her Fayth. #nowFayth

โ€œNow faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.โ€ (Hebrews 11:1)

So, maybe you didn't deliver your baby but you have made it through some difficult situations that you didn't think you would survive. Maybe you were granted opportunities that you didn't think you qualified for. Maybe you are sick of putting off pursuing your goals or waiting for the perfect time. NEWS FLASH! The "perfect time" doesn't exist. Your goals can't wait any longer. Stop procrastinating. The time to push is now! PUSH.

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21 ื‘ื™ื•ืœื™ 2022

Self sabotage is the one! But thankfully you have a physical reminder of labor/delivery and all the blessings that come with that. Keep pushing friend! And yes, do it afraid!

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